Happy Monday! As some of you know, my husband Tyler, and I are pre marital councilors for our church, Pacific Crossroads Church. We meet with couples who are dating and contemplating getting engaged or couples who are already engaged and are preparing for marriage. Marriage is something I feel very passionate about and can’t seem to escape. Another part of our roll as councilors is to give a short talk during the by-yearly seminar our church also provides for dating or engaged couples. I thought I would start a new short series on the blog called Marriage Mondays to showcase here excerpts from this talk. because while we absolutely love weddings here at Alders, we also love marriage. And too often we put too much emphasis on the wedding and not enough on the marriage. So here is our section on friendship. This is simply the outline we follow and isn’t word for word what we say, however it gives more than just the gist of it! Enjoy!
2. Friendship: Do you legitimately enjoy spending time with this person?
a. You’re going to be spending your life with this person. Does that prospect excite you or exhaust you?
b. Tyler has a friend who explained to Tyler that his wife was just that. His wife. But his guy friends were his best friends. That thought depresses me.
c. Tyler and I are absolutely best friends. While we were definitely acquaintances before we started dating (and not really close friends) we did build a solid foundation on friendship while we were dating, making sure we enjoyed activities together that you would otherwise do with friends. Our absolute favorite night of the week now is Wednesdays. Why? Because Survivor is on. We love it! We literally cannot get enough! We watch together, predicting and scheming on behalf of the contestants during the commercials. This has become our favorite thing to do together! So much so that Tyler got me a few older seasons for this last Christmas and we plowed through them in less than a week. And we’ve even contemplated doing a podcast together about it as well!
d. The point is, is your spouse your best friend? If not, you should first and foremost invest in them to create a friendship bond.
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